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Friendship is that special relationship we have with the people we Love and cherish but there are certain Do’s and Dont’s  involved that we sometimes ignore.  Here are some frequently asked questions concerning friendship I will like to talk a bout.  The answer is No. What if they’re in a toxic relationship? You ask. Honestly the only thing you can do on your path is advice and pray they listen. As the saying goes, The heart wants what it wants. If your friend doesn’t have the intentions and make the plans of quitting that relationship, there’s little you or anyone else can do. First of all, you should know your friends personality, are they overly introverted? If they are, they may see you always trying to get them out of their comfort zone as clingy or pushy. You may be the type of person who wants to hang out every time or call and do stuffs but your friend may be vice versa. Try to find a balance, except they only behave that way towards you, then they may be avoiding...

Le t me start by saying merry Christmas in arrears. I’ve been super pumped about this holiday and I’m certain you’ve had a tremendous experience, yes? Anyways, it’s the season of giving and I’m so excited to be writing the last blog post for 2021. This is an amazing time of the year and I want to use this medium to say a very big thank you to everyone who has engaged in this space since I started. Y’all are the real MVPs😘   I honestly didn’t want to sound cliche, that’s why I’m not going to start going on and on about resetting and implementing new goals and plans which is a very great thing to do, don’t get me wrong. Instead I’m here to advise you to focus on using 2022 to continue that great goal could be a business, a skill etc that you’ve got going. Rather than changing course entirely, put more effort into whatever good stuff you’ve got going.  It should be a continuation rather than a reset . Most times a lot of us feel a new year should be about an entirely new thing w...

Hey you! It’s your favorite blogger. Ajiri aka Aj😉 I’ve asked several persons what they think self pity means. The truth is not everybody knows the difference. Most times we misunderstand the difference between sadness and self pity.   While sadness is normal and lasts for a short period of time, self pity is an excessive self absorbed unhappiness one feels over their own troubles. This type of sadness is exaggerated. For example, a person may feel terribly bad for their misfortune and instead of doing something to move forward or change their situation they would just feel so sorry for themselves, instead of getting up and being optimistic, they remain hopeless and blame other people or circumstances for what could be happening to them.   The number one reason why self pity sucks is because we never take responsibility for our actions. Someone or something is always the reason for a misfortune. It is never our fault, hence we do not deserve whatever has happened and yes, we ...

Hi and welcome to my blog.   As we all know, Nigeria is 61years old today. I’ll spare you the history as majority of us already know how we(Nigerians) Gained independence(Freedom) from the British empire on Oct 1st. I wanted my topic to sync with the independence theme so hence “Signs you’re giving someone else power over your life” Independence simply means the freedom from outside control or influence of others.  Do you allow people make you do things you ordinarily do not want to do, do you get pressured into making decisions, do you allow other people influence the way you feel, act or the things you say negatively? You may be giving them power over you. Let me quickly take you through some of these signs.   1. You find it difficult to set boundaries.  Perhaps you used to have certain rules and boundaries but somehow you no longer do, you just let anyone waltz in and out of your life, you give people the leverage over you on a platter of gold. You’re giving other...

Hi and welcome to my blog. I’m super excited to write about this topic because it’s something I’ve always thought about and I’m sure you have too. We all remember our childhood memories, some great, some not so great and one way or the other we have tried to imagine what it would feel like to meet the younger version of ourselves, many of us wish we could turn back the hands of time to correct some silly things we did or just to make a different choice. I for one want to go back and yell “Don’t engage in those rough plays(to avoid the wounds on my knees, lol) but this is life, once a moment is gone, it is gone, all you’re left with are memories. A brief letter to a younger version of myself. I took out time to ask some of my friends about the topic above and here are some of their interesting messages. I observed, one of the major things we all want to tell a younger version of ourselves is to either quit doing something or start doing a thing. Majority of us would like to advice the m...

Hello guys and welcome to my blog. Today I’d like to talk about a very delicate and sensitive topic.  BODY SHAMING . It’s so sad that many of us have suffered from its claws. I for one have had my own fair share and I want to talk about the dangers it causes. What exactly is body shaming?? There are two words included which are Body and shame...  So in essence it is the act of mocking and negatively judging someone based on their physical appearance.   It’s puzzling how from being carefree as children and shameless about our bodies all of a sudden we become very conscious about our appearance, in the process strive to look a certain way. I remember growing up and people would tease me about my forehead. I heard statements like “Rihanna and you dey compete for forehead competition” Lol and it used to get to me a lot. So consciously I stopped making certain hairstyles. This went on for a year or two and one day as my Mom began to part my hair into the usual style(like she d...

Hello, it’s me again. I know, I know. I disappeared🥺 There’s no excuse whatsoever because I had so many opportunities to post here.  I’m sorry😂 just like my topic. Anyways, now on today's topic. Is saying “Sorry” really enough? Truth be told, the word “sorry” has been misused by a lot of persons, hence losing its value. Some people deliberately do whatever they wish to do and say anything because they know there’s a word like “sorry” hanging somewhere they can just yank off and present.  “Heck, I’ll just apologize later” they say. Some even go to the extreme by saying “At least I apologized, that’s his/her problem”  There are some wrongs you can right by saying a sincere apology like “I’m sorry” but when you deeply hurt someone, there are some steps you should follow when apologizing.  That’s why you hear questions like “what exactly are you sorry for. How do I know you’re not just saying sorry. How am I sure you’re not just going to do it again? You see the averag...