Is saying “Sorry” really enough?

Hello, it’s me again. I know, I know. I disappeared🥺 There’s no excuse whatsoever because I had so many opportunities to post here. 

I’m sorry😂 just like my topic. Anyways, now on today's topic. Is saying “Sorry” really enough?

Truth be told, the word “sorry” has been misused by a lot of persons, hence losing its value. Some people deliberately do whatever they wish to do and say anything because they know there’s a word like “sorry” hanging somewhere they can just yank off and present. 

“Heck, I’ll just apologize later” they say.

Some even go to the extreme by saying “At least I apologized, that’s his/her problem” 

There are some wrongs you can right by saying a sincere apology like “I’m sorry” but when you deeply hurt someone, there are some steps you should follow when apologizing. 

That’s why you hear questions like “what exactly are you sorry for. How do I know you’re not just saying sorry. How am I sure you’re not just going to do it again?

You see the average human wants to know all these things. No one wants to feel like a fool, Please, continue reading. 

STEPS ON HOW TO APOLOGIZE SINCERELY.

1. Be remorseful.

It’s better you don’t apologize than to do so grudgingly or without sincerity.

Study the picture below. If you were to accept an apology, which would you choose?

2. Don’t push the blame. 

For example;

“I’m sorry but you know I wouldn't have done that if you hadn’t acted this way” now you have not only made an excuse, you have blamed the other person for your own behavior. Don’t do that, take responsibilities for your actions.

3. Promise it won’t happen again.

I remember having a fight with a friend of mine(name withheld) and he said “Look, I swear it won’t repeat itself.” Well, it repeated itself.😂

Yes, we are humans and we make mistakes but there’s a limit to everything. You don’t expect a person to be okay while you keep hurting them in a particular way.

Always try to keep to your words. Do what you promised to do and what not to do. The more you break a promise, the harder it becomes to forgive. Don’t push a person to the wall and expect them not to respond.

4. Give them room.

After apologizing, give them space to adjust. You don’t expect them to automatically start jumping and interacting like before. Some persons take time to adjust and come out from their shell. Remember, you hurt this person. Now, don’t force them to return to the way they were before. Time heals all wounds.

5. Allow them make their own decisions.

This is where most of us make the mistake. Don’t force people to forgive you, do your part and relax. When I say do your part, don’t just throw a flimsy apology and fold your hands. If you want a relationship to work, you’ll have to put in the work, but don’t cross the line by becoming manipulative. Some persons manipulate others emotionally. This is very wrong. 

With these few points of mine, I hope I have been able to convince you and not confuse you that simply saying “Sorry” sometimes isn’t always enough.

Why don’t you pick up your phone or go see that friend of yours you might have hurt and apply these steps. I’m sure you’d be amazed with the results.

Shalom! Please, do not forget to comment and share. Thank you.

Aj loves you💕