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Misconceptions concerning relationships.

Hello Guys🖐🥳🥳🥳 

Who missed me? Okay, so one of my new year resolution was to get consistent with my blog and other literary works and believe you me, I was but my mobile phone decided to go bananas on me and hence, the break. It’s been a wonderful year so far, I’ve experienced so much this past few weeks and I’m grateful for the journey so far. I hope you do too😚

I took an interest on this topic because of so many stories I’ve heard and seen. 

What exactly is a misconception?

Well, misconception is a view or opinion that is incorrect based on faulty thinking/understanding.

We say experience is the best teacher but is it truly the best like we say? Wouldn’t it be better if we learnt something before attempting it? That way you’d have avoided the mistakes that came from being ignorant. 

Now, straight on today’s topic, below are ten misconceptions concerning relationships that I would like to address and indulge you with. Please keep reading👓

1. It’s better to go for a person who loves you more than you love them.

I’ve seen this quote on several people’s status update and I wonder. Isn’t love supposed to be reciprocated and why deprive yourself of true love and happiness by settling for a person just because they love you more. This mentality has so eaten deep into the minds of so many people that they’d prefer to be with a person they have no feelings for. Go for a person who equally loves you just as much as you love them.

2. Your partner must meet all your needs.😯

This misconception has led to ladies thinking the guys should meet all their needs financially and in turn the guys demand for sex as compensation. In a relationship I believe both parties are supposed to do things for themselves mutually, no one is entitled to anything. 

3. Guys will always cheat. 🧏‍♀️🧏‍♀️

*clears throat* The truth is not all guys cheat and when you come to realize this you’ll know you deserve the best. This myth has affected a lot of relationships. One major thing it has birthed is trust issues and this mindset makes a person settle for less.

4. Opposite attracts and is the best. 🙅‍♂️🙅‍♂️🙅‍♂️

This is a common misconception we’ve been made to believe over the years. While there is some truth to this, it isn’t entirely true and shouldn’t be a yardstick to settling for a partner, rather, going for someone who is compatible is best and at the end both parties will end up complimenting each other.

5. Marriage will solve all your problems. 👫

Marriage will solve nothing that couldn’t be solved during dating. Many people fail to understand what the period of dating should be used for and this is sad as it leads to future problems.

6. Love is enough. 👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨💕

Is love truly enough? A lot of other things should be brought  into consideration when embarking on a relationship. It’s possible to be in love with a person that isn’t right for you. A relationship comes with responsibilities and some persons kid themselves into believing love covers all things whereas it doesn’t. 

7. Healthy relationships are stress free and always sweet. 🏃‍♀️❤️🏃‍♂️

It’s true that during the first months of meeting someone the feelings are everywhere. The butter flies in the tummy, endless blushes and frequent calls and attention. You’d often hear people say “enjoy it while it lasts” The truth is we neglect the fact that days will come when the butter flies won’t be too frequent or still, absent and you’d feel your relationship is crashing because you based your relationship on the physical feelings. What happened is that you have come to fully understand your partner, seen each other’s flaws, bad sides and all but it is your responsibility to hold on. A healthy relationship deserves work and effort.

8. The work of a partner is to complete you. 💪🤔

A lot of persons who have low self esteem get into relationships with people with high self esteem with the sole aim of sapping from their strength. Getting into a relationship with the motive of feeling better about yourself or to fix your insecurities is wrong. Rather, the work of a partner is to compliment you and with you being in a healthy relationship it will encourage you be a better version of yourself.

9. Dating must lead to marriage. 💔💔

During dating, two individuals come together to examine each other. Some couples today are in a toxic relationship because they didn’t use this period wisely. It doesn’t matter how long you have been with someone. Remember, marriage won’t solve what couldn’t be solved during dating.

10. You must spend all your time together. 🙅‍♀️🙅‍♀️

This is rampant with the young couples. They would get so attached and sucked into each other’s schedule and relationship web and at first it’d seem like love not until it begins to breed fights because they’ve neglected their hobbies, personal life and even friends. Do not let yourself go, you mustn’t spend the whole day with your significant other. There are healthy ways to creat and spend time together.

A relationship is a beautiful thing but when we fail to understand some certain things concerning it, it becomes chaotic. I hope you enjoyed today’s read. These are some misconceptions I wrote down. Nevertheless, please I’d love to see others down in the comment section. Thank you😘


Aj Loves you💕

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