Friendship FAQs

Friendship is that special relationship we have with the people we Love and cherish but there are certain Do’s and Dont’s  involved that we sometimes ignore. 

Here are some frequently asked questions concerning friendship I will like to talk about. 

The answer is No. What if they’re in a toxic relationship? You ask. Honestly the only thing you can do on your path is advice and pray they listen. As the saying goes, The heart wants what it wants. If your friend doesn’t have the intentions and make the plans of quitting that relationship, there’s little you or anyone else can do.

First of all, you should know your friends personality, are they overly introverted? If they are, they may see you always trying to get them out of their comfort zone as clingy or pushy. You may be the type of person who wants to hang out every time or call and do stuffs but your friend may be vice versa. Try to find a balance, except they only behave that way towards you, then they may be avoiding you or don’t enjoy your company.

If you’ve ever been in this situation you’ll understand how upsetting it can be especially if they constantly do it. Call it petty, but it’s a low blow. If you’ll love to pursue a friendship with your friend’s pal, make your intentions known rather than sneaking into one.

In a nut shell, your friend’s friends are not actually your friends. 

A case scenario.

‘Ada likes to sing but she can’t. She wants to pursue a singing career.’ You’ll be a bad friend if you keep cheering her on when deep down you know she’s terrible. At this point you’ll just have to be honest. Have a heart to heart talk, Is it something she can work on? Perhaps attend a musical school first? If you think she has other talents she can explore, point them out. At the end it’s better to hurt your friend with the truth than make them happy with lies.

If your answer is No, then you are definitely feeling entitled.

Do not ridicule their business no matter how small by rejecting to patronize them with the right approach. If you know you can afford whatever they sell/services they render, do it the right way. If they refuse to do something for free, understand it’s a business. 

Lol. In my opinion, this usually happens when your energy don’t match. Ever been around extroverts? Their hyperactivity drains you mentally. So two things are involved, if you get disgusted with them being around it shows that you really don’t like them but if you feel tired from over engagement or you know they’ll just come to disturb your peace and quiet, ‘sleep’ in my own case tho(because to be honest we all have this set of friends) then you’re probably being choked and will have to talk about it with them.

No. There’s no book rule that says you have to but you shouldn’t be rude to the people he/she cares about. 

They’ve probably betrayed you several times and what’s a friendship without trust? First of all, find out if it’s a flaw or if it’s something more than that as some friends don’t really like you to start with. 

If it’s the first, Here’s an advice that has worked for me, if you’re still interested in pursuing that friendship regardless of this character flaw, you’ll have to be very careful with the kind of information you release to them. There are surface friendship, where you’re cool but you keep them on surface level and if it’s the second, my dear, Run ooooo.

Jealousy. You probably feel these set of people will steal your friend away. That is a misconception and it may begin to affect your friendship especially if you always need reassurance. Allow your friend breath, let them have fun with other people. This doesn’t only happen in romantic relationships, it happens between friends too. 

It depends on the kind of stuffs. Are they life threatening, do they make you be a better version of yourself? Do they bring out behaviours that aren’t your best? If No, you’re engaging in a toxic relationship but if this uncomfortable stuffs are to make you grow, become better, leave that comfort zone of yours and put in the work. 

So, it’s a wrap. I’ll like to see other FAQs down in the comment section. Thank you for reading.

Aj loves you💕