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Le t me start by saying merry Christmas in arrears. I’ve been super pumped about this holiday and I’m certain you’ve had a tremendous experience, yes? Anyways, it’s the season of giving and I’m so excited to be writing the last blog post for 2021. This is an amazing time of the year and I want to use this medium to say a very big thank you to everyone who has engaged in this space since I started. Y’all are the real MVPs😘   I honestly didn’t want to sound cliche, that’s why I’m not going to start going on and on about resetting and implementing new goals and plans which is a very great thing to do, don’t get me wrong. Instead I’m here to advise you to focus on using 2022 to continue that great goal could be a business, a skill etc that you’ve got going. Rather than changing course entirely, put more effort into whatever good stuff you’ve got going.  It should be a continuation rather than a reset . Most times a lot of us feel a new year should be about an entirely new thing w...

Hey you! It’s your favorite blogger. Ajiri aka Aj😉 I’ve asked several persons what they think self pity means. The truth is not everybody knows the difference. Most times we misunderstand the difference between sadness and self pity.   While sadness is normal and lasts for a short period of time, self pity is an excessive self absorbed unhappiness one feels over their own troubles. This type of sadness is exaggerated. For example, a person may feel terribly bad for their misfortune and instead of doing something to move forward or change their situation they would just feel so sorry for themselves, instead of getting up and being optimistic, they remain hopeless and blame other people or circumstances for what could be happening to them.   The number one reason why self pity sucks is because we never take responsibility for our actions. Someone or something is always the reason for a misfortune. It is never our fault, hence we do not deserve whatever has happened and yes, we ...

Hi and welcome to my blog.   As we all know, Nigeria is 61years old today. I’ll spare you the history as majority of us already know how we(Nigerians) Gained independence(Freedom) from the British empire on Oct 1st. I wanted my topic to sync with the independence theme so hence “Signs you’re giving someone else power over your life” Independence simply means the freedom from outside control or influence of others.  Do you allow people make you do things you ordinarily do not want to do, do you get pressured into making decisions, do you allow other people influence the way you feel, act or the things you say negatively? You may be giving them power over you. Let me quickly take you through some of these signs.   1. You find it difficult to set boundaries.  Perhaps you used to have certain rules and boundaries but somehow you no longer do, you just let anyone waltz in and out of your life, you give people the leverage over you on a platter of gold. You’re giving other...

Hi and welcome to my blog. I’m super excited to write about this topic because it’s something I’ve always thought about and I’m sure you have too. We all remember our childhood memories, some great, some not so great and one way or the other we have tried to imagine what it would feel like to meet the younger version of ourselves, many of us wish we could turn back the hands of time to correct some silly things we did or just to make a different choice. I for one want to go back and yell “Don’t engage in those rough plays(to avoid the wounds on my knees, lol) but this is life, once a moment is gone, it is gone, all you’re left with are memories. A brief letter to a younger version of myself. I took out time to ask some of my friends about the topic above and here are some of their interesting messages. I observed, one of the major things we all want to tell a younger version of ourselves is to either quit doing something or start doing a thing. Majority of us would like to advice the m...

Hello guys and welcome to my blog. Today I’d like to talk about a very delicate and sensitive topic.  BODY SHAMING . It’s so sad that many of us have suffered from its claws. I for one have had my own fair share and I want to talk about the dangers it causes. What exactly is body shaming?? There are two words included which are Body and shame...  So in essence it is the act of mocking and negatively judging someone based on their physical appearance.   It’s puzzling how from being carefree as children and shameless about our bodies all of a sudden we become very conscious about our appearance, in the process strive to look a certain way. I remember growing up and people would tease me about my forehead. I heard statements like “Rihanna and you dey compete for forehead competition” Lol and it used to get to me a lot. So consciously I stopped making certain hairstyles. This went on for a year or two and one day as my Mom began to part my hair into the usual style(like she d...

Hello, it’s me again. I know, I know. I disappeared🥺 There’s no excuse whatsoever because I had so many opportunities to post here.  I’m sorry😂 just like my topic. Anyways, now on today's topic. Is saying “Sorry” really enough? Truth be told, the word “sorry” has been misused by a lot of persons, hence losing its value. Some people deliberately do whatever they wish to do and say anything because they know there’s a word like “sorry” hanging somewhere they can just yank off and present.  “Heck, I’ll just apologize later” they say. Some even go to the extreme by saying “At least I apologized, that’s his/her problem”  There are some wrongs you can right by saying a sincere apology like “I’m sorry” but when you deeply hurt someone, there are some steps you should follow when apologizing.  That’s why you hear questions like “what exactly are you sorry for. How do I know you’re not just saying sorry. How am I sure you’re not just going to do it again? You see the averag...

Hello Guys🖐🥳🥳🥳  Who missed me? Okay, so one of my new year resolution was to get consistent with my blog and other literary works and believe you me, I was but my mobile phone decided to go bananas on me and hence, the break. It’s been a wonderful year so far, I’ve experienced so much this past few weeks and I’m grateful for the journey so far. I hope you do too😚 I took an interest on this topic because of so many stories I’ve heard and seen.  What exactly is a  misconception ? Well, misconception  is a view or opinion that is incorrect based on faulty thinking/understanding. We say experience is the best teacher but is it truly the best like we say? Wouldn’t it be better if we learnt something before attempting it? That way you’d have avoided the mistakes that came from being ignorant.  Now, straight on today’s topic, below are ten misconceptions concerning relationships that I would like to address and indulge you with. Please keep reading👓 1. I t’s bett...

It's the most wonderful time of the year, no doubt. Merry Christmas in arrears Lovelies. I assure you I didn't run away, school and exams happened.😁 I had no plans of making a blog post until next year but I knew that was me procrastinating again, so here I am guys. During the week, I observed how negative people behave and I realized it robbed off on me in some ways. I found myself saying "This has got to be the ' dryest ' holiday." I asked myself why I loved this festive season so much as a kid. Was it because of the songs, the gifts, the mood of the festive period or just getting to see loved ones and spending time together? Hmm. There's no doubt how challenging this year was for everyone. The corona virus which was accompanied with a lockdown affected relationships, businesses and institutions. However, we came out stronger, better and that is enough to be grateful. The festive season is all about gratitude and expressing love.  I'll quickly take ...

Hello! Hello! Hello!!! Guess who's back with the relationship talk? Yep, moi. I've been itching to write about this topic(Types of people you should never get into a relationship with) for a while now. What I'll be listing down shortly are what we call "Red flags." What exactly are red flags? Red flags can be seen as a cue, warning, alert; a sign or signal that something is wrong. In reality, red flags are something to not be taken lightly because if you ignore them you'll regret later.  Most times people kid themselves by saying stuffs like 'if you love someone these won't matter because they're just flaws and would probably fade after a while', these are lies, illusions they tell themselves maybe because they're scared of admiting the relationship is toxic. In a world where we can't read the minds of others, it's often times hard to predict or know what someone else thinks/feels about us. As humans we are curious to know certain t...

It's been what, two weeks? Oh wow, I've missed you guys so much. A lot of things snatched my attention for a while but I'm here now, all yours😆 Well, I tried fitting everything in here as a single blog post but it got too lenghty and I know how lenghty posts can be a turn off so I decided to split it into parts. Now, some of these things might not seem like a bad habit to you but trust me they are. Bad habits are basically things we do that keeps us from being our best, not so? I'm not going to go on about habits like binge drinking alcohol, smoking and the rest, my major aim is to talk about those simple things we probably might not have noticed before or don't pay much attention to. Here's my bucket list of bad habits to quit. 1. Boasting and bragging about not reading. It might seem cool when you hear statements like "Me and book are not one o" or "I'm not a fan of reading" most times when we say stuffs like this in publ...