Signs you’re giving someone else power over your life

Hi and welcome to my blog. 

As we all know, Nigeria is 61years old today. I’ll spare you the history as majority of us already know how we(Nigerians) Gained independence(Freedom) from the British empire on Oct 1st.

I wanted my topic to sync with the independence theme so hence “Signs you’re giving someone else power over your life”

Independence simply means the freedom from outside control or influence of others. 

Do you allow people make you do things you ordinarily do not want to do, do you get pressured into making decisions, do you allow other people influence the way you feel, act or the things you say negatively? You may be giving them power over you.

Let me quickly take you through some of these signs.

 

1. You find it difficult to set boundaries. 

Perhaps you used to have certain rules and boundaries but somehow you no longer do, you just let anyone waltz in and out of your life, you give people the leverage over you on a platter of gold. You’re giving others power over you if you find it difficult to set healthy boundaries.

 

2. You alter your goals.

Every now and then you’re striking out a line from your list probably because someone doubts your abilities. You’re giving others power over your life.

 

3. You allow people bring out the worse in you.

When you don’t have control over your emotions, someone is always making you mad, depressed, bittered. Someone is always spoiling your day then it’s a sign.

 

4. You fall victim to guilt trip

You get pressured into doing something you definitely wouldn’t do normally which always ends up in regret. If you don’t want to do something, simply say No and stay true to your principles.

 

5. You always try to blend/fit in.

This happens when you don’t know your value, when you always want to follow the crowd and please others and in the process you lose yourself.

 

6. You always try to impress people.

Live your life, do the things that makes you happy, be ambitious, work hard for yourself and if along the line you surprise them then fine but don’t live a life trying to impress others, you’ll only be hurting yourself as you can never please every person.

 

7. You let your self worth depend on other people’s opinion. 

Once certain people notice you can never make a decision without their input they harness the power you’ve given them and may try to control your life.

 

8. You’re fake.

When You change the way you act around them because you want to please them and blend in.

 

9. You hold grudges.

Forgive and let go. Holding a grudge allows that person take more space in your life. Forget about the past hurts although it doesn’t mean you have to associate with them. 

 

Now that you know this, you can take back your power by Saying No, by setting healthy boundaries, by taking actions when someone is affecting your emotions in a negative way, by living according to your values and by deciding from now on you’ll be in control of your life.

Happy Independence🇳🇬 and as always;

 

Aj loves you💕